Raising kids is a big task these days, especially with a range of advice coming our way. Also, the kids are getting way smarter. I can confidently say my 4 year old and 7 year old are way advanced than how I was at their age. So, when parenting such smart cookies, we really need to buckle and be on our toes.
In our parenting journey one thing that plays a very crucial role is how much freedom we would want to give to our little ones or is it important? Aren't the kids supposed to listen to the elders? Well, yes but not blindly not anymore.
Kids as young as 3 years have a mind of their own. With so much of exposure, the children have their own choices, preferences and opinion. So, when we facilitate all those 'good things' around us to them , we can't expect them to listen to us without voicing out their own thoughts.
I believe in giving freedom to my children and at the same time, we do follow some house rules too.
Now house rules need not be intimidating always. They can be as simple as brushing your teeth twice or saying Good morning the first thing after you wake up. House rules are fun. They help us in setting our ground right and drawing the limit.As parents, we have certain expectations and if our kids don't live upto those , we feel disappointed. While having expectations is but obvious, but I don't want to chain down the kids by those, instead focus on their strengths and weaknesses too , so that together we can channelize them in a constructive way. When children don't feel pressure of their parents expectations, they feel a lot free and perform much better.
Talking is another way to freedom for my kiddos. We talk about everything , whether it's their day at school or how I found a new recipe or may be discussing a book or movie. I do 'baby' my kids but mostly I treat them as individuals, asking for their feedback, encouraging them to try out new things , respecting their choices and views. When the channels of communication are set right, it helps us in understanding each other better and when we understand each other, we indeed feel more free and ourself. Few years down the line, when my kids are in their teens or young adults, I hope this will help us in sorting most issues that are likely to come our way.
I do suffer from separation anxiety. I buy a lot of toys, on impulse too. Yes! I have a habit of looking out for them but I make sure they get a lot of time on their own. Free play sessions. Outdoor games. Spending weekends or vacations with the grandparents. It's amazing how my seven year old assures me that he's fine whenever there's a bruise on his body these days or how he chooses his projects .
I totally follow a child-led approach in my parenting endeavors. Ofcourse that doesn't mean I am ok if they demand 5 ice creams in a day or come up with unreasonable demands. I am not completely an 'Yes' mom but I have little big ways to give my kids a sense of Freedom, hoping it helps them in the long run!
Do you believe in giving freedom to your kids? If yes, how?
*This blog post is a part of #LetsDiscussFreedom Blogathon. I would like to thank Princy Khurana from www.clanpedia.com for introducing me*
*I would now like to introduce Raaghavi from www.thetinyamma.wordpress.com and recommend you to read her views on the prompt, 'What Does Freedom Mean To You'.*